The Talk about birth control
I was watching The Talk on CBS the other day, and the ladies were discussing one of those Kardashian people being on birth control at fourteen. The question was, what the question always is on The Talk: What do you think, ladies?
Everyone agreed that it was just great the wee Kardashian felt free to speak to her mother about something so personal. Cheers to them and their relationship. On the birth control front, however, Sara Gilbert thought fourteen was too young to be playing around with a girl’s hormones; Aisha Tyler believed knowledge is power and sexually active kids should have all the facts and access to birth control; and Sheryl Underwood was against it because she felt it was like giving the girl permission to have sex.
Those familiar with me probably know where I stand. I agreed with Sara and Aisha but not Sheryl.
By all means talk to your kids about the risks and responsibilities of having sex and tell them your thoughts and views on it, pros and cons. If you believe sex should only happen within the bonds of marriage and with someone you love, make sure they understand that and try to instill the values in them that would have them agree and follow your wishes.
Honestly, I wish you the best of luck with that. However, abstinence only, in my opinion, promotes ignorance, and ignorance leads to uninformed mistakes that could seriously compromise your beloved child’s future, possibly his or her life.
Ask yourself, is being able to say, “I told my kid what was expected and she knew my views on this,” really reward enough to offset becoming a grandparent before your time or your kid coming home with an STD? Is it satisfaction enough that your neighbors know you told your kid “don’t do that”? Will that make it all better?
I doubt it.